Parallel Play - Himeros Backstage

I really enjoyed the video, and your discussion. Concerning the first question from an audience member: of course that’s a situation that often comes up when a married person carries on a long-term affair with someone else and keeps it secret from his spouse. A problem that often arises in those circumstances is that the married person keeps saying that he will end his marriage, but doesn’t. What to do? I think that the idea that came up in your discussion of trying to figure out what why you are in the situation and what you want to get out of it is a really good one. In that situation the “other” person may believe the promises for a while, maybe indefinitely, even if it is clearly not going to happen. In this particular case the man knew that his partner wouldn’t leave his girlfriend. In a way that’s better because the choice of what to do can be more clear cut, like you guys said.