Open Me Up
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In porn, we’re accustomed to seeing huge dicks fucking tight holes - but rarely do we see how to open a bottom up, before he gets fucked. This video will show techniques and strategies to prepare a bottom for penetration.
It’s important to know that there’s an inner and outer sphincter muscle. The outer sphincter can be controlled voluntarily, but the inner sphincter… located about an inch and a half inside the anus - is involuntary, and it takes time for it to release.
By using the six tools in this video, you’ll be able to open both sphincters and facilitate anal play that makes everyone happy. The tools are connection, communication, lube, fingers, tongues… and teasing.
Connection goes a long way. It helps your partner relax, and a relaxed mind translates to a relaxed ass. Engage in foreplay. The more your bottom wants it, the easier it will be.
Encourage communication with your partner. As you begin to play with his ass, check in about what’s working and what isn’t. Ask what feels good.
Similarly, if you are the bottom, express the pleasure you’re experiencing - and, if something hurts, speak up. If it hurts, you’re doing it wrong.
The tongue is a wonderful tool for relaxing a bottom’s ass. Because it is soft, the tongue won’t penetrate the anus - but it can be extremely hot and make the bottom want more.
Because the ass doesn’t self-lubricate, finding a good lube is essential. Be generous with it. And reapply often.While toys are great, you need not look any further than your own fingers. Make sure your nails aren’t long or sharp and that you’ve cleaned your hands. Trace your lubed finger around the bottom’s hole. Massage his ass lightly and circle his opening. The opening is very sensitive and has many nerve endings. Delight all of them! Also use your finger to press lightly against the opening. Just some slight pressure to get him excited. Finally, begin to tease his ass with light penetration. At first, just the very tip of your finger. See how easily it goes in… if you feel resistance, use the previous tools. As you tease a bit deeper, start using the head of your cock. Tease his hole with your dick. Maybe even slip in the tip.